Have you ever known a millennial who is still single until now?
I tell you millennials have chosen to stay single until we’re ready to get married at some point in our life.” Some”, for I have decided to be celibate. I have said some sees married life as their call.
It’s not that millennials are afraid of getting married. We even wanted to have a good family and become good parents as top priorities in life. We are unscared of commitment. Just as what other people say that we are scared of obligation. We just have the broader sense of what it demands-engagement. Millennials might marry at an older age for we wait to be more educated and have a stable career. It is called responsible-obligation. I think millennials have understood that one has to be capable of providing to his or her own family.
It’s easy to get married today, get drunk at the wedding party and have kids. But, the question is, “what can you give if you are not stable and capable enough to provide for a family?”
In the poll posted by Gallup in 2014, it said that:
- 59% of millennials are single and have never been married
- 60% of millennials do not have any children under 18 in their household
Quoting from an article I’ve read recently, it said:
In a survey of more than 1,000 single people ages 18-25, Tinder found 72 percent of the surveyed young Millennials “have made a conscious decision” to stay single for a period of time.
It’s kind of strange. As the norm of our society, young adults go to school. Work hard. Find a partner. Get married. Have children. Encourage your children to do the same. It’s an eternal recurrence of the same. However, millennials are somehow counter-societal. There is a shift of understanding.
As a person who has decided and has chosen to live a celibate life, I know my reasons. I just do not know what do other single millennials reasons are. I hope it’s not because you are afraid of obligation, commitment or being faithful to the promise you will make in those relationships.
I guess millennials are just enjoying or savoring their time in their life recognizing how precious it is.
In a more profound sense, we are fully willing to embrace being single for time not because someone said it or imposed it to us. We welcome single life because we consciously have chosen for it- the feeling of independence and empowerment.